It goes without saying that motherhood is one of life’s best and most rewarding experiences. But it is also a highly stressful job that demands round-the-clock attention, incredible amounts of patience, love, understanding and tolerance. Every mum will have moments of feeling overwhelmed thanks to factors like sleep deprivation, raging hormones, crying babies and a million things to do. The next time you’re feeling on the brink of a meltdown, here are four things to help you pause and reset.
Accept that you can’t always be in control, and that it’s okay not to be
Life (especially one with kids) is exceptionally chaotic and messy. The sooner you accept that you won’t be able to control every aspect of your life or your children’s, the easier it’ll be to roll with the punches when your perfect plans go awry.
Concentrate on single tasks
As used to multi-tasking as we are, attempting to accomplish everything off that endless to-do list isn’t practical – or good for your mental wellbeing. Take a deep breath, sift out your priorities (be practical on what you can achieve within the timeframe you have), and knock off that sized-down list one step at a time.
Ask for help
Despite what we thought while growing up, our parents aren’t indestructible beings with an endless capacity – and neither are we. Learn to reach out to your spouse, family or friends and get real about the difficulties you’re facing. There’s no shame in asking for help!
Know that you’re not alone
“Why can’t I do anything right?”, “Why aren’t my kids listening to me?”, “Why are other mums so put together? What’s wrong with me?”
Stop. These are exactly the type of thoughts that appear when you’re overwhelmed, and it’s so important to stop guilt tripping about everything that’s seemingly going wrong, and focus on what’s going right instead. Count your small victories!
Besides, you’re not the only mum who gets overwhelmed, not the only one who has resorted to serving cereal for dinner, not the only mother who has accidentally lost her temper at her kids (and you won’t be the last)… and the long list goes on.
Schedule a “Do Nothing” day
Forget being the go-getter mum for just a moment, because what you really need is a well-deserved break. Pull out your overly packed schedule and choose appointments, errands, or other to-dos to remove. Even better, pencil in a play date for your kid or find a family member that can care for your child while you do absolutely nothing. Trust us, you’ll feel so much better, even if it’s just for an afternoon. You’ve earned it!