Interrupting, talking back, fighting with other kids—these are just some of the behaviours a rude child exhibits, leaving most parents wondering why. Did they have shortcomings that led their child to be this way? Are there other influences they are not aware of? If you think your child is turning out to have a habit of being disrespectful, start being mindful of the following possible reasons:
#1 Act of disrespect is commonly dismissed at home
Perhaps your child has done it before and you just dismissed it. They may have done it again and still got away with it, until it became a habit. Some kids think that whatever they do, as long as they’re not called out for doing it, is right. They may have observed it also with other people at home: when someone’s rude and it just goes unnoticed. Pay attention to what your child does, how they behave, and make sure to call out disrespectful acts right at the beginning. Don’t make them think it’s okay to be rude.
#2 They’re going through adolescence
Adolescence is a tough stage for most kids: it’s the stage in their life when they’re undergoing a lot of changes and probably do not know how to handle them. One way an adolescent shows disrespect is by withdrawing from parents and working too hard to become their own person. This is when they want to be more independent. Thus, some unfavourable acts include talking back or yelling. If this is the case, understand that this is just a phase they have to go through and remain on their side every step of the way. However, let them know that they still have to act appropriately.
#3 They feel neglected
Do you work a lot or forget to spend time with your child? Kids who don’t spend enough time with their parents often feel neglected and are more likely to act out. Remember, values are first learned at home and your presence plays a crucial role in establishing your child’s values. Even if you just have 20 minutes, make it a point to spend quality time with them.
#4 They adapt the behaviour they see around them
Does your older child talk back to you? Do you yell a lot at home? How do teachers in their school treat everyone? Kids can behave like the people they interact with. If they see adults cursing at each other or teachers being rude to students, they will most likely pick that up and think it’s okay to do the same.
#5 You’re overprotective of them
Sometimes, parents just can’t reprimand their kids for their bad behaviours. For example, if your child acts out against another child, your tendency may be to protect your child even if you know they’re probably wrong. So instead of correcting their behaviour, your defense becomes a validation of their action. Being an overprotective parent may lead to more harm than good, so be sure to look into your parenting style too.