No matter how prepared you might be, toddler tantrums have a tendency to catch most parents off guard. And when your child’s in the middle of a meltdown, it might get tempting to have one yourself too, but here are four ways that will help keep you calm and collected during a temper tantrum.
Keep Calm And Carry On
It’s not a game of “who can throw the biggest tantrum?”. Anger is a very infectious emotion and you may very well find your toddler’s outbursts prolonged if you join in in the yelling. How you respond to your child’s tantrum will directly influence just how unpleasant the whole situation has to become. So stay calm, and by doing so, you’ll help them calm down too.
Stand Your Ground
We understand that it can get very frustrating for parents especially when your kids are throwing a tantrum in public spaces. But no matter how long it continues, it’s important to not give in to your screaming toddler. By giving in, you’ll only be teaching them that throwing a fit is a good way for them to get what they want, and they’ll pick up on this and use it for future conflicts. You’ll want them to see that throwing tantrums change nothing for them.
Use The Power Of Touch
Because children have yet to learn how to get a good grip on their feelings, they can feel overwhelmed by the emotions they feel whenever they have a tantrum. As a result, you may find that any of your attempts at reasoning with them will fall on deaf ears when they’re having a full-blown screaming fit. So, go for the power of touch instead, and give your little one a firm yet gentle hug, indirectly telling them that while you weren’t very happy with their tantrum throwing, that you still care for them. Bonus, a hug can help dissipate any anger or frustration you might have too.
Be Flexible In Your Methods
Lastly, it’s also important to remember that each child is different and they react differently to different methods, so don’t be too rigid in your strategy. Be flexible in your terms: for example, if your child wants to have a cookie before dinner, tell them no, but let them know that instead, they can have one after dinner. Let them have their way every once in a while, and they will respond to your instructions better in the long run.