“Daddy was murdered when I was 15. Mum single-handedly brought my sisters and I up. We were taught to manage ourselves since then. My company’s name is a combination of my father and mum’s name.” shares Daisy, the founder of Margaret Stanley Language Consultancy. On top of managing her business, she is also a teaching consultant at Nanyang Business School (NTU) and an adjunct faculty at the Lee Kong Chian School of Business (LKCSB), SMU. She was a nominee for the “Most Outstanding Adjunct” award in SMU’s Teaching and Research Excellence Awards in 2014 and has been on the Dean’s Teaching Honour Roll for the top 10 adjunct faculty in LKCSB for the past four years.
However, beneath the numerous accolades, there were untold tales of struggles. Daisy recalls, “After my first child, l found that I was not in control of my life. Marriage, newborn, they were one of the most difficult things I ever had managed. A lot of self-talk and self‐reflection got me out of the ‘I’m a mum and I’m now trapped’ mindset. My voice is to all women who are mothers. You take charge and don’t forget to love yourself. Being mum doesn’t mean you lose loving yourself first.”
We asked Daisy how she manages as a working mother with two children and her wish for her mother.
- How do you cope as a working mother?
I have my mum who helps me with the cooking and looking after. We don’t have a helper. Strict discipline and clockwork time management are musts.
- What keeps you going/motivated?
That the only way is forward and it can’t be worse than before.
- What do you hope for your children?
I want them to grow up happy, compassionate and useful for the society.
- What is the most challenging aspect of parenting?
To continue to love and look after my children even when I’ve fallen sick or feel down.
- What is your biggest fear as a mum?
That I’ve not done enough to groom them to be happy and confident people.
- What is your advice to mums who wants to be start a business?
I would say start only when you know in your heart that you really want to and not because of pressure from your peers who are in business too. Run your own race at your own timing. And there is no good or bad timing to start a business.
- What is the best parenting advice you received?
It’s from my mum. She said that the first thing I need to do is to take care of myself – on the inside (my health) and the outside (my grooming), and only then can I be strong and happy enough to love and care for my children. My mum isn’t an educated woman (she only had up to Primary 5 education during her time) but she has so much wisdom.
- What is your wish for your mum?
My wish is for her to live to 100 years old and beyond.
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