Being a parent is one of the toughest jobs in the world. It’s not only because of the sacrifices you have to make but also because of the challenges you face and the pressure to be the best parent you can be. It’s important to ask for help whenever you need to and to have a strong support system when it becomes tougher.
Here are some of the telltale signs when asking for help may just be the next best thing to do:
#1 You’re easily annoyed
Do you remember a time when your kid said something cute but instead of laughing at it, you just simply dismissed them or worse, snapped at them? Kids are an endless source of joy but because of the demands that come with nurturing and taking care of them, parents may sometimes forget it. It can be because of stress, anxiety, or just the feeling of not being good enough. This isn’t a reason to blame and snap at your children though. Know when your annoyed feeling is because of an internal struggle rather than one brought by your kids, and address it as soon as possible.
#2 You don’t take care of yourself as much as you should
Raising children means lesser time for yourself, fewer hours of sleep, and little to no time for socialising. However, this shouldn’t be an excuse for you to actually stop taking care of yourself and doing the things you love to do. When you feel like you’ve outgrown what you used to like because you rarely or don’t do them anymore, it’s time to ask for help on how you can get back on track, little by little. Remember: you cannot give what you don’t have. Before you can give your kids the gift of love, you must first love yourself.
#3 You simply don’t know what to do
You don’t have to know everything. Just because you’re a parent doesn’t mean you have to act like you’re the only one who knows what’s best for your child. Chances are, you will encounter new situations that will require sound decision-making expected from a parent. Learn to acknowledge that some people may know better than you. A good example would be your own parents. When in doubt, ask your mum or dad how they did it—and decide for yourself if you will heed their advice.
#4 You feel alone
There may be times when you want to rant about the stress of parenthood. Or you want to go out to just be away from it all. The feeling of being alone in your journey as a parent may be overwhelming even if you have a partner to share it with. The key is to communicate how you feel—to your partner or your closest friend and family member. You may be surprised at how willing they are to listen and lend a helping hand.
#5 It is affecting your relationship with your partner
It takes a village to raise a child, and it surely takes two functional, loving parents to successfully sustain a family. But sometimes, parenting can also take a toll on your relationship with your partner. You will be tested and how well you overcome the challenges will define your parenting success. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you and your partner don’t seem to work together anymore or when he does not want to cooperate as well as he should. At the end of the day, you have to find a way to make it work for your kids.